Music balance at weddings is a big deal
A couple wrote Miss Manners about how the wrong music balance at a wedding they attended ruined the experience. They struck up a nice conversation with a couple sitting at their table. However, the background music made it difficult to converse:
”… it was simply one guitarist/singer, but his amplification and the acoustics of the hall made it impossible to carry on any sort of normal conversation while he was playing. I am certainly not alone in this complaint, as several others at this otherwise pleasant affair also mentioned the unpleasantly excessive level of the music.
I should stress that I am not an old fogey, and I do like music of a considerable volume to dance to, but when there is no dancing, why can’t guests appreciate one another’s company without bellowing?”
Over at Reddit, some younger attendees had a different complaint about music balance at weddings: they didn’t like having older guests at weddings they attended:
”Not going to lie, most of the fun weddings I’ve been to have been at least 50% or more of people around our age. When there are too many elders/children it brings the vibe down quite a bit.”
Another person agreed:
”I was in a wedding where basically the only people who were the same age as the couple were those who were in the wedding party. It was so, SO awkward. No one was dancing except for the 10 people in the wedding party and their +1s. An entire empty dance floor with older judgey onlookers. The wedding ended like 2 hours early because eventually the older guests left. This wedding seriously scarred me for my own wedding and I invited only 5 people who weren’t in their 20s/30s.”
But then another person weighed in with a different viewpoint. They attended a wedding where 40% of the guests were over 50 years of age. Was the wedding any good? Here’s what she said:
”… it was a BLAST. Older people can get down too, you just need to make sure the music/Entertainment is diverse enough that everyone can get out on the dance floor. Our Playlist was actually mostly music from the 70’s and 80’s with some modern songs mixed in, trust me there are LOADS of bangers from the past that everyone, including younger people, know and will dance to. To this day we are still getting compliments about the Playlist and use it whenever we host friends at our home.”
Two lessons emerge:
- First of all, music volume MUST be controlled for reasons expressed at the outset. Wedding couples WANT conversations to flourish during the dinner hour AND during dance floor time. Professional DJ entertainment companies like Five Star Entertainment have the high-end equipment to calibrate the music by bathing the dance floor with beautiful, clear sound without overwhelming guests as they sit at their tables. This is step one in proper music balance at weddings.
- Balance the music playlist at weddings to appeal to ALL guests, not just a small clique of insiders. As stated above, “older people can get down, too.” A professional entertainment company like us works with you to curate balanced playlists that appeal to everyone at your Fayetteville wedding. This is a big deal. Nothing unites a party like a packed dance floor. But that involves some give and take on the songs played.
Don’t discriminate against older guests when planning your guest list. Rather, let Five Star Entertainment work with you to fine tune playlists that are inclusive while still tapping into your music preferences.